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managing self- and emotional-preservation after the overturning of Roe v. Wade

This is a post for those of us who know that is it imperative that we FIGHT, and simultaneously have a barrier to fighting, whatever it may be. Our barrier is a barrier, but it’s not a shutdown. There is a way to care for yourself and participate fully. If any of the following apply to you, you’re in… Continue reading managing self- and emotional-preservation after the overturning of Roe v. Wade

when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job

It’s me again, writing about jobs. In this video, I answered the question “do we have to like our jobs?” (Spoiler: the answer is no. In fact, we romanticize the idea of loving our jobs. YOU DON’T NEED TO. It may have benefits but it also has drawbacks.) Today we’re talking about being interested in… Continue reading when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job

getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy

I’ve always been a person who strives to be prepared. If there’s a way to prepare, I’m doing it, whether it’s a fake interview or practicing for a math test. Therapy should be customized for every client. Therefore it is in every client’s best interest to make the most out of a session. After all,… Continue reading getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy

top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)

I like to start out OCPD content not with a fun anecdote but with its definition. OCPD is not OCD although they can be easily confused. OCD is an anxiety disorder characterized by obsessions and compulsions. People with OCD are largely aware of their Os and Cs. People with OCPD don’t necessarily have that repetitive… Continue reading top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)

When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.

Today we’re talking about two types of acceptance: radical and everyday. What’s the difference? Everyday acceptance is accepting the reality in front of us. We use everyday acceptance for the annoyances we encounter, such as dropping the half-gallon of milk in the grocery parking lot or getting beer spilled on your butt at a concert.… Continue reading When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.

you forgot to love yourself in your own love language(s)

Do you ever feel like, while in bed and just before falling asleep, you’re missing something? Not a task, nothing work related, but like something’s missing at the very end of your day. One final love ya squeeze. Some self-affirmations. More time to think? Something… I feel this way many nights and yet each time… Continue reading you forgot to love yourself in your own love language(s)

the problem with quality over quantity for perfectionists

Dear Perfectionists, Quality over quantity is a useful notion in some areas of our lives. But how does it pose problems in other areas, such as work, school and creative pursuits?  Let’s take just a paragraph to orient ourselves around the key elements of perfectionists: We are the people who procrastinate, spend too much time… Continue reading the problem with quality over quantity for perfectionists

8 myths about Love that you need to hear: what I learned from bell hooks

I received All About Love from the library of a friend. I swear that borrowing a book chosen for you by your friend automatically makes us think more highly of the book. (Is there research on this yet?!) At the time I had just read an essay about the importance of friend love called “What… Continue reading 8 myths about Love that you need to hear: what I learned from bell hooks

my perfectionistic mindset barriers to writing, posting, creating

It seems obvious and yet it wasn’t obvious to me: my perfectionistic mindset barriers halt my progress as a content creator (and human) every single day. This post could be construed as a list of excuses but I prefer to frame it as a reflection. It’s more like I’m explaining the outcomes of a self… Continue reading my perfectionistic mindset barriers to writing, posting, creating

Balancing self- and emotional-preservation while participating in the ongoing fight against racial injustice as a white person.

This is a post for those of us who are WHITE and know that is it imperative that we FIGHT against the anti-Black, anti-POC, racist SYSTEM, and simultaneously feel we have a barrier to fighting whether mental illness, trauma, emotional sensitivity.… Continue reading Balancing self- and emotional-preservation while participating in the ongoing fight against racial injustice as a white person.

A discussion on boundaries in new relationships

“Being insecure and feeling ‘lonely’ is the ultimate recipe for self-destruction. You’ve got to teach yourself to feel secure in your solitude. Boredom is the ideal breeding ground for bad decisions.” – What a Time to Be Alone by Chidera Eggerue Seeking instant gratification and connection from new romantic relationships is one of these self-destructing… Continue reading A discussion on boundaries in new relationships

healthy work-from-home habits 🤪 / mental health and covid-19 🦠

COVID-19 has lots of us working from home. COVID-19 has lots of us struggling with our mental health. Working from home generally brings two things, sometimes together, sometimes one or the other, and that is: isolation, and burnout — which are rarely ever good for our mental health.  And essentially this virus has given both… Continue reading healthy work-from-home habits 🤪 / mental health and covid-19 🦠

all about OVERSHARING – have i said too much already? #healthyrelationships

On today’s #mentalhealthmonday, today we’re going to take a break from everything coronavirus / COVID-19, and we’re going to talk about oversharing, specifically oversharing in new relationships (romantic, friend, workplace). This is a topic that I really just started digging into this past week after listening to this podcast episode about oversharing. Questions answered: Question… Continue reading all about OVERSHARING – have i said too much already? #healthyrelationships

VLOG #2: treatment update, saying bye to therapist & imposter syndrome

On today’s #mentalhealthSATURDAY, I answer: – what is UP – what is IMPOSTER SYNDROME – what’s something i should look for when therapist shopping? – my job WORRIES – OCPD and anxiety related – who is the villain in the incredibles – job expectations – more worrying – yes i did start my worry time!… Continue reading VLOG #2: treatment update, saying bye to therapist & imposter syndrome

obsessive compulsive *PERSONALITY* disorder – what is it + what does it look like in the workplace?

On today’s #mentalhealthmonday, I answer: What IS obsessive compulsive personality disorder? What is the difference between obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)? What are elements of OCPD that can be equated with “positive” traits in the workplace/academia? (In the video above, I call these “pros” of OCPD – that’s really not… Continue reading obsessive compulsive *PERSONALITY* disorder – what is it + what does it look like in the workplace?

FREE WORKSHEET DOWNLOAD! | Letting go of past-self comparison

It’s a fillable PDF so you can type right in it, or you can print it! _________ “I used to be so ____” | Letting go of our past selves | Past-self comparison Social comparison is just a thing.  Everybody does it.  And I think we’re told often to “not compare yourselves” and “recognize that… Continue reading FREE WORKSHEET DOWNLOAD! | Letting go of past-self comparison

a micro-idea about handling mood swings with a romantic partner – “it’s not you”

Hello! I posted a brand new YSN video on YouTube, which you can find below.  If you prefer to read content, then follow along with this blog! While I was planning a video with several tidbits about dating with mental illness, I ended up narrowing my thoughts into a single idea: ‘It’s not you’ in… Continue reading a micro-idea about handling mood swings with a romantic partner – “it’s not you”

i’m not perfect

I know that I’m not perfect. Really, I do. And yet I let my perfectionism – and not just perfectionism, but my belief that my work is directly tied to my worth – rule my life. I’ll give you an example – and it’s not going to make sense to most people: I (wrongly-but-I’m-working-on-it) believe… Continue reading i’m not perfect