stop saying my feelings are valid

"Whenever you're feeling down, just know that so many people have it worse than you." "Your feelings, no matter how big or small, are valid. All feelings are valid. Speak your truth." PHEW, am I right?!?!? Which IS IT? Can I care about my botched Starbucks order or not? How about I lost my job… Continue reading stop saying my feelings are valid

what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work

It sucks when your mental illness colors how people see you. Believe me when I say You’re not your mental illness. Recently at work — since disclosing mental health problems, I might add— I feel as if I’ve been treated differently than before. It’s hard to know if this is intentional or not. I find… Continue reading what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work

top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)

I like to start out OCPD content not with a fun anecdote but with its definition. OCPD is not OCD although they can be easily confused. OCD is an anxiety disorder characterized by obsessions and compulsions. People with OCD are largely aware of their Os and Cs. People with OCPD don’t necessarily have that repetitive… Continue reading top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)

When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.

Today we're talking about two types of acceptance: radical and everyday. What's the difference? Everyday acceptance is accepting the reality in front of us. We use everyday acceptance for the annoyances we encounter, such as dropping the half-gallon of milk in the grocery parking lot or getting beer spilled on your butt at a concert.… Continue reading When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.

but have you considered emotional distancing? the sister youtube video I have a coworker who says she gets disproportionately upset when cars drive in the wrong way in the parking lot. Through more than one set of windows, she has unfettered access to these disappointing behaviors. It's me. I'm that coworker. Okay, just kidding, BUT I often feel as she… Continue reading but have you considered emotional distancing?

coping with criticism, esp. when you have OCPD new video on same topic Having trouble receiving feedback or criticism is a human thing. We want to be praised and validated in our work. However, I am a person living with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), and for me, receiving feedback is a total blow to my system: I’m down for the count, and… Continue reading coping with criticism, esp. when you have OCPD

reducing rumination – it’s not scary or difficult!

If you’re like me, when something really bothers you, you’ll ruminate on it for an unhealthy amount of time. You may even think to yourself “this isn’t normal.” This happens to me, too, and I’m working through refocusing my energy instead of ruminating with it.