Why are we impressed by the bare minimum? I’m not saying it’s right or wrong. Or that we should or should not change. I’m just looking into what the deal is here. There’s this mailman in the town I work in who is good looking. Once I sent a picture of him to my friend… Continue reading Why are we impressed by the bare minimum?
Author: she seems normal!
what Jen Gotch taught me about perfectionism
I read The Upside of Being Down for several reasons: I love ban.do, I’m interested in mental health, I love memoirs, and the title is catchy af. I wish that were my title. I’m glad I did. Not only is the book title catchy af, Jen’s experience with perfectionism is relatable af. It’s cathartic to… Continue reading what Jen Gotch taught me about perfectionism
when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job
It’s me again, writing about jobs. In this video, I answered the question “do we have to like our jobs?” (Spoiler: the answer is no. In fact, we romanticize the idea of loving our jobs. YOU DON’T NEED TO. It may have benefits but it also has drawbacks.) Today we’re talking about being interested in… Continue reading when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job
getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy
I've always been a person who strives to be prepared. If there's a way to prepare, I'm doing it, whether it's a fake interview or practicing for a math test. Therapy should be customized for every client. Therefore it is in every client's best interest to make the most out of a session. After all,… Continue reading getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy
something’s gotta give: five first dates
I don’t know if I’m an optimist or a pessimist. I know I'm not a hopeless nor hopeful romantic. You could consider me an evidence-based realist with a mild affinity toward romance. Regardless, I’d really like to write to you and say we're not doomed. In fact, I first wrote this with a different thesis… Continue reading something’s gotta give: five first dates
what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work
It sucks when your mental illness colors how people see you. Believe me when I say You’re not your mental illness. Recently at work — since disclosing mental health problems, I might add— I feel as if I’ve been treated differently than before. It’s hard to know if this is intentional or not. I find… Continue reading what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work
top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)
I like to start out OCPD content not with a fun anecdote but with its definition. OCPD is not OCD although they can be easily confused. OCD is an anxiety disorder characterized by obsessions and compulsions. People with OCD are largely aware of their Os and Cs. People with OCPD don’t necessarily have that repetitive… Continue reading top workplace struggles of people with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)
When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.
Today we're talking about two types of acceptance: radical and everyday. What's the difference? Everyday acceptance is accepting the reality in front of us. We use everyday acceptance for the annoyances we encounter, such as dropping the half-gallon of milk in the grocery parking lot or getting beer spilled on your butt at a concert.… Continue reading When it’s all too much, you need to accept some things.
Self care is not easy
The concept of self care as a bubble bath has been covered. So has the concept of self care as "not a bubble bath.” In my POV, both are valid. I wanted to do a different spin. Indulge me as I attempt to bring new perspective to this age-old (like 2 years old) idea. Before… Continue reading Self care is not easy
you forgot to love yourself in your own love language(s)
Do you ever feel like, while in bed and just before falling asleep, you're missing something? Not a task, nothing work related, but like something's missing at the very end of your day. One final love ya squeeze. Some self-affirmations. More time to think? Something... I feel this way many nights and yet each time… Continue reading you forgot to love yourself in your own love language(s)