What if you just…didn’t? The art of doing as little as possible, the opposite of perfectionism, and an argument against working your ass off

Leonardo da Vinci said, “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Would you not agree? Why then—even despite understanding the cultural and societal expectations and measurement and definition of productivity—do we keep finding ourselves constantly adding more to the to do list, even when those things won’t get done? While this can indeed be chalked up to… Continue reading What if you just…didn’t? The art of doing as little as possible, the opposite of perfectionism, and an argument against working your ass off

stop saying my feelings are valid

"Whenever you're feeling down, just know that so many people have it worse than you." "Your feelings, no matter how big or small, are valid. All feelings are valid. Speak your truth." PHEW, am I right?!?!? Which IS IT? Can I care about my botched Starbucks order or not? How about I lost my job… Continue reading stop saying my feelings are valid

it’s time! ysn book update & survey open now

Cat's outta the bag. I'm slowly but surely writing a YSN book! In this post I want to walk you through my idea for this BABY of mine and share a very important part of my writer's journey: community feedback. As you all know (but I'll say it again for all the literary scouts reading… Continue reading it’s time! ysn book update & survey open now

managing self- and emotional-preservation after the overturning of Roe v. Wade

This is a post for those of us who know that is it imperative that we FIGHT, and simultaneously have a barrier to fighting, whatever it may be. Our barrier is a barrier, but it’s not a shutdown. There is a way to care for yourself and participate fully. If any of the following apply to you, you’re in… Continue reading managing self- and emotional-preservation after the overturning of Roe v. Wade

Why are we impressed by the bare minimum?

Why are we impressed by the bare minimum? I’m not saying it’s right or wrong. Or that we should or should not change. I’m just looking into what the deal is here. There’s this mailman in the town I work in who is good looking. Once I sent a picture of him to my friend… Continue reading Why are we impressed by the bare minimum?

what Jen Gotch taught me about perfectionism

I read The Upside of Being Down for several reasons: I love ban.do, I’m interested in mental health, I love memoirs, and the title is catchy af. I wish that were my title. I’m glad I did. Not only is the book title catchy af, Jen’s experience with perfectionism is relatable af. It’s cathartic to… Continue reading what Jen Gotch taught me about perfectionism

when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job

It’s me again, writing about jobs. In this video, I answered the question “do we have to like our jobs?” (Spoiler: the answer is no. In fact, we romanticize the idea of loving our jobs. YOU DON’T NEED TO. It may have benefits but it also has drawbacks.) Today we’re talking about being interested in… Continue reading when “interest” doesn’t cut it anymore — when to stay, when to leave your job

getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy

I've always been a person who strives to be prepared. If there's a way to prepare, I'm doing it, whether it's a fake interview or practicing for a math test. Therapy should be customized for every client. Therefore it is in every client's best interest to make the most out of a session. After all,… Continue reading getting the most out of your appointments: how I prep for individual therapy

something’s gotta give: five first dates

I don’t know if I’m an optimist or a pessimist. I know I'm not a hopeless nor hopeful romantic. You could consider me an evidence-based realist with a mild affinity toward romance. Regardless, I’d really like to write to you and say we're not doomed. In fact, I first wrote this with a different thesis… Continue reading something’s gotta give: five first dates

what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work

It sucks when your mental illness colors how people see you. Believe me when I say You’re not your mental illness. Recently at work — since disclosing mental health problems, I might add— I feel as if I’ve been treated differently than before. It’s hard to know if this is intentional or not. I find… Continue reading what to do when you’re perceived as weak at work